It’s the most wonderful time of the year and truly it is, but does it feel that way for everyone?
Santa arrives with a sleigh full of packages and Christmas for some of us carries its own baggage. Office parties, family gatherings, friends making merry all sound marvelous but it can have a hollow echo if your heart is heavy. So how do we navigate all the different shades of a blue Christmas?
I began to slide down the slippery slope of sadness; a distinct memory of a terribly stressful holiday gone by had robbed me of any sign of cheer. I was unwrapping ornaments & sobbing when the realization dawned, I did not have to shoulder this sorrow alone. I chose to reach out to trusted hearts. A conversation of encouragement changed the filter I was gazing through; those same ornaments now spoke of freedom and precious moments of peace.
So, as you go about your “holi-daze” take time to remember you deserve kindness and the “presence” of the moment. Look around your circle, I dare say you will find another outstretched hand in need of your touch.
“A hand for each hand was planned for the world.”
Sea & Skye
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything else you do flows from it.” That’s Proverbs 4:23 and it’s the bullseye.
I am now more vociferously taking this a step further. I’m guarding the eyes and ears of my heart. What am I watching? Do I really want that image in my memory? What am I giving my attention to both internally & externally? Is it challenging me in a good way? Am I running a rut in a well-worn track? What am I listening to? Do the words of this song uplift me? Am I singing along to what I want to feel? How much negative news does anyone need to listen to on a daily basis? The media wants us to believe it’s 24/7; as if we could possibly miss something.
A long time ago a dear friend said to me “Garbage in – garbage out.” How true those words ring. I’ve decided the scales of my environment need to weigh heavily on the side of positivity including lighthearted, encouraging and hopeful. Who am I surrounding myself with? What is their attitude? Do we lift each other up to braver, lighter more joyful places?
Time is our most precious commodity; Time is wealth; so how am I choosing to invest my heart? What do I want my heart to hold since out it flows the issues of life?
Time to detoxify; recalibrate and set my focus on things that are lovely, kind and of good report.
Sea & Skye
People say change “can” be hard to accept, well I’m here to say IT IS along with being frightening & exhausting.
Leaving behind what we know and are familiar with can be stressful to say the least. I speak from experience – this will be the 3rd time my family has moved in the last 9 months. Now I realize I’m painting with a dark palette but there are streaks of light.
I’ve learned to travel lighter. There is only so much household accoutrement one really needs and it’s a good time to share the wealth. A dear friend suggested I look at objects and ask myself “Does this bring me joy?” and allow it to fare accordingly.
I discovered there’s no such thing as perfect and even if there is, contentment beats it by a mile. Change brings plenty of decisions to be made and I’ve found “Let peace be your umpire” the best advice yet, courtesy of Saint Paul.
We are still in the throes of this latest change and quite honestly stress has ruled more days than I care to admit. But it’s okay to be emotional. No one emotion is more valid than another and each deserves its own particular attention. Self-sufficiency is an admirable attribute but it’s also good to ask for help because it gives family and friends an opportunity to give of themselves.
So, in the midst of upheaval I’m also navigating a change of heart. More to come.
Sea & Skye