Perk Up – Part II

As I sit contemplating the end of 2018 with a cup of coffee, my thoughts are turning to 2019 resolutions.  Interesting because making New Year’s resolutions is not a usual practice for me.  What I do instead is pledge each year to work to become a better person than the one I am leaving behind, and pledge to leave my little corner of the planet better off than the environment I am looking back at.

If I were to make a few resolutions the list would look something like, discontinue to place Tupperware in the dishwasher, the plastic items never come entirely clean and never completely dry during the heat dry cycle.  Or, close the refrigerator door while buttering my toast so the cold does not escape.  Silly, I know.  To be frank, I don’t believe in resolutions.  I tried them for years until I came to the realization that being resolute means more than making a promise to oneself.  I resolve to _______________ (fill in the blank) and then most of the time we go cold turkey to change a behavior or start a new practice with limited success.

At the end of Perk Up Part I, I promised to share the focus of my journey to permanent, positive change.  In a word, FOOD.  This is not about a dress size.  For years I dieted thinking that I was making healthy choices about what I was putting into my body to achieve optimum nutrition and good health.  I was wrong and I realized this one day while watching a segment of the Dr. Oz.  show.  Sure, I was saving calories and eating a basically healthy diet but, I was trapped in the yo-yo thing, and that’s not what I wanted.  I wanted to understand the benefits of healthy nutrition and how to go about getting there.

To make a long journey short, after the Dr. Oz. segment I purchased Food Can Fix It, Dr. Mehmet Oz.  Food Can Fix It lays out an easy-to-follow plan for harnessing the power of nutrition and that was exactly what I was looking for.  It is important for me to say here that I am not promoting Dr. Oz or his products, or his mythologies.  What I am promoting is how to go about achieving permanent, positive change and as I said previously, there are no quick, easy fixes, but the list to perk on is simple:

  • Study yourself and know exactly what it is you would like to achieve
  • Take ownership over what you want to achieve
  • Don’t waste time and money trying to get there fast
  • Research
  • Network
  • Find the best help
  • Make small, attainable goals
  • Celebrate small victories
  • Love yourself

In time, you will achieve success.  The kind of success that is permanently positive.  For me permanently positive is, I don’t diet I eat right and maintain a healthy weight, my physical health is optimum, and best of all, healthy nutrition helps to defy the aging process :).  Whatever it is you want to change, permanent, positive change is, a change of habit, a change of nature, a change of behavior.  Why not brew up a pot of delicious change that lasts.  it feels good!

In 2019 call a friend.  Meet over a cup of steaming hot coffee and let the journey begin!

Peace and Love – Happy 2019!

India

 

 

 

Perk Up – Part I

Have you noticed that what we plan to be, do, achieve, usually happens over a cup of coffee?  Whether alone to our self or to a group of friends ‘let’s meet for a cup of coffee” is the first phrase we say  when we want to begin a plan or to discuss an idea?  We grind our thinking, we brew our ideas, we perk on it until we eventually savor the flavor of success.  Coffee is the libation to success.  It’s the juice!  It’s the jolt!

Here we sit overlooking the arrival of 2019 and one of the topics I have been perking on to share is my journey to permanent, positive change.  Soon the Internet will be flooded with 7 steps to weight loss programs, 12 steps to decreasing anxiety issues, 5 steps to help increase finances and so on.  A new slew of self-help books will appear and bargains on point-counting food plans will hit the market. Gym memberships will increase with a fury as the exercise rush to a “new you” begins; and by the end of February all of the material and effort will be kicked to the curb.  Why?  Because when we put all our energy into quick change and immediate results are not realized disappointment sets in and discouragement results.  As humans, we do have issues and we should look to resolve them.  But, we should look to resolve them positively and permanently with the best of help.  There are no quick fixes to permanent, positive change.

Recently, a very attractive but painfully overweight individual (no judgement) joined in a hot yoga session that I was participating in.  This person tried their very best and paced themselves to make it through the 90-minute, 120 degree session.  After the session, we sat down together, dripping of course, but feeling quite delightful.  My new friend shared, “you know, I didn’t always look like this, and one day I looked in the mirror and said to my reflection, I did this to me therefore I can fix it,”

In that phrase lies the key to permanent, positive change.  My friend didn’t say, “this happened to me because a loved one hurt me, my spouse left me, I was fired from the best job I ever had, etc.  No matter what the surrounding circumstances were to their metamorphosis this person took ownership over it by recognizing “it was me” who allowed this to happen; and this person’s steady success hinges on the fact that they also realize there are no quick step programs to achieving their desired goal.  It is a slow and steady study of the self.

Positive change results when we look deep inside ourselves and not at the world around us.  I like to think we want to achieve a positive change that allows us to continue on without breaking no matter what the world is throwing at us.  This is resilience and it is resilience that comes to our aid in the face of adversity.

In Part II of Perk Up, I will share my own journey to permanent, positive change.  I hope you stay with me…I’ll put the coffee on.

Happy 2019!

Peace and love,

India 

 

What Are You Waiting For!

If you are one of those people who waits for the last-minute to start your Christmas shopping and need help pulling it together, the posse has just arrived!

Although I am going to focus on Christmas, the following tips can be helpful when applied to all holiday celebrations, as well as celebrations throughout the year.

First and most importantly, make it a point to know the giftee.

Here are some helpful ideas.

If you know the giftee loves to cook, assemble an array of kitchen tools and/or linens, and a unique cookbook.  I love shopping at stores such as, Sur La Table for these kinds of items.

Maybe the giftee is an avid gardener?  In this case, arrange a selection of handheld garden tools.  Include a gardener’s apron and a package of spring bulbs.  Home Depot is the place to visit for success with arranging this gift.

How about the giftee who enjoys cozy comfort?  Be creative!  Put together a few packages of popcorn, a lap fleece and Starbucks hot chocolate and winter shaped marshmallows.  Who could resist this assortment cuddled up on the sofa watching old movies on a snowy winter night?

Here is a gift idea that I received several years ago and the friend that gifted me is off the “what should I buy this year” hook.  This gift is able to be renewed year after year by the gifter.  My friend provided me with two magazine subscriptions, Martha Stewart Living and Oprah.  For me and my friend this is the gift that keeps on giving!

I think you get the idea by now and can go it alone in creating gift packages that are both thoughtful and useful; and here is a secret…shh, these gift packages can be both time-saving and cost-effective.  Once the gift packages are purchased, ditch the boxes and wrapping paper, tags and ribbon purchases.  Employ this helpful hint and not only will you be saving time and money, you will be saving the planet, and your giftee’s energy with lessening the amount of trash to the curb.

The secret is, buy a Christmas stocking and stuff it with your treasure!  Simple designed Christmas stockings are manufactured in bulk, and therefore are relatively inexpensive. especially when compared to the price of wrapping paper and ribbon; and they can be “hung by the chimney with care” year after year by the giftee.

What are you waiting for?!  Journey on down to your favorite shopping spot or hop online to get started.  Only two more weeks to go!

Peace and love this holiday season,

India

 

Christmastime is Here

It’s the most wonderful time of the year and truly it is, but does it feel that way for everyone?
Santa arrives with a sleigh full of packages and Christmas for some of us carries its own baggage. Office parties, family gatherings, friends making merry all sound marvelous but it can have a hollow echo if your heart is heavy. So how do we navigate all the different shades of a blue Christmas?
I began to slide down the slippery slope of sadness; a distinct memory of a terribly stressful holiday gone by had robbed me of any sign of cheer. I was unwrapping ornaments & sobbing when the realization dawned, I did not have to shoulder this sorrow alone. I chose to reach out to trusted hearts. A conversation of encouragement changed the filter I was gazing through; those same ornaments now spoke of freedom and precious moments of peace.
So, as you go about your “holi-daze” take time to remember you deserve kindness and the “presence” of the moment. Look around your circle, I dare say you will find another outstretched hand in need of your touch.
“A hand for each hand was planned for the world.”

Sea & Skye

Coincidence Or Is It?

There have been times in my life where situations or events have happened and I thought to myself, wow what a coincidence. Was it really though? Lately I’m not so sure. I’m starting to think nothing happens by chance but there are signs pointing us in the right direction.
One beautiful fall morning I decided to go to my favorite local farm stand. They serve the best coffee and apple cider donuts. As I sat at my table sipping my coffee and admiring the beautiful fall foliage, I spotted a familiar face walking towards the door. I jumped out of my seat and ran to the door to greet of all people, my cousin with open arms. I could not believe my eyes. She lives an hour away and woke up that morning and decided to take a drive to Long Island because she had a craving for an apple cider donut from Kerber Farms of all places. What a coincidence or was it, that we ended up at the same place, at the same time; or perhaps it was the universe drawing us together
Currently, at this point in my life I am at a crossroad. My husband and I have decided to separate after 14 years of marriage. Needless to say, there are many questions going through my head. For example, am I making the right decision, will I ever find happiness, how do I heal the pain? The list of questions goes on and on.
Most of the time I am walking through life blinded by the hectic pace of work and motherhood so I often miss the signs around me. That fall morning when I saw my cousins face, I knew it was a sign that everything was going to be ok. She and I share a special connection although we do not see or speak as often as I would like she always has this way of appearing when I am in need of some emotional support. As you know a woman never tells their age, so I will say as a thirty-something, single mother of two, there will be days when I am clawing to hold on to my sanity and I receive a random text from my cousin simply saying “I’m thinking of you and sending prayers,” and this coincidence pulls me down from the edge of the cliff. It’s like we are connected on some wave length. A frequency. A divine power.
Science may say it is some quantum force that pulls us together. Something like the six degrees of separation. But I like to think of it as a spiritual connection that binds the wave lengths from one loved one to another. Something to ponder over a good cup of coffee.
Why not take this day to recognize the signs the Universe is sending to you?
Journey on….

Virgo