Have you noticed that what we plan to be, do, achieve, usually happens over a cup of coffee? Whether alone to our self or to a group of friends ‘let’s meet for a cup of coffee” is the first phrase we say when we want to begin a plan or to discuss an idea? We grind our thinking, we brew our ideas, we perk on it until we eventually savor the flavor of success. Coffee is the libation to success. It’s the juice! It’s the jolt!
Here we sit overlooking the arrival of 2019 and one of the topics I have been perking on to share is my journey to permanent, positive change. Soon the Internet will be flooded with 7 steps to weight loss programs, 12 steps to decreasing anxiety issues, 5 steps to help increase finances and so on. A new slew of self-help books will appear and bargains on point-counting food plans will hit the market. Gym memberships will increase with a fury as the exercise rush to a “new you” begins; and by the end of February all of the material and effort will be kicked to the curb. Why? Because when we put all our energy into quick change and immediate results are not realized disappointment sets in and discouragement results. As humans, we do have issues and we should look to resolve them. But, we should look to resolve them positively and permanently with the best of help. There are no quick fixes to permanent, positive change.
Recently, a very attractive but painfully overweight individual (no judgement) joined in a hot yoga session that I was participating in. This person tried their very best and paced themselves to make it through the 90-minute, 120 degree session. After the session, we sat down together, dripping of course, but feeling quite delightful. My new friend shared, “you know, I didn’t always look like this, and one day I looked in the mirror and said to my reflection, I did this to me therefore I can fix it,”
In that phrase lies the key to permanent, positive change. My friend didn’t say, “this happened to me because a loved one hurt me, my spouse left me, I was fired from the best job I ever had, etc. No matter what the surrounding circumstances were to their metamorphosis this person took ownership over it by recognizing “it was me” who allowed this to happen; and this person’s steady success hinges on the fact that they also realize there are no quick step programs to achieving their desired goal. It is a slow and steady study of the self.
Positive change results when we look deep inside ourselves and not at the world around us. I like to think we want to achieve a positive change that allows us to continue on without breaking no matter what the world is throwing at us. This is resilience and it is resilience that comes to our aid in the face of adversity.
In Part II of Perk Up, I will share my own journey to permanent, positive change. I hope you stay with me…I’ll put the coffee on.
Peace and love,